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Dead Money

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Good friend of my brother in law married 13 years was blind sided by wife wanting divorce. (he's really a great guy, but a babe in the woods, she's the only sex partner he has had, and sex was once a month at best.)

She really took advantage of "Tom" separate bills, even at restaurants, insisted his car be in his name only, (he paid for it out of his meager funds, he's a music teacher).

He was short on money at a restaurant once, and she "loaned" him $2.14, which she insisted he pay back.

They bought a house together, that sounds like a no brainer to me.

She has a million dollar bank account from an inheritance. All accounts are of course, separate.

Not sure if the inheritance is in a trust or what, he does not seem to know when I pressed him.

She had papers drawn up, and thinks he is just simply going to sign off and go away broke. He's a good kid, but realizes now he's been had, but he's not the super vindictive type, though he is realizing he is entitled to some recourse.

He needs a good attorney obviously, any thoughts on settlement or proceedings he would expect?

Its Oklahoma, a community property state.
 

Scrapman

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for sure needs an attorney but i dont think you know full situation of his marrige.

just advise him to have a alwyer fight for him .

Sounds he is a p u ssie big time.
 

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I don't get it. He's a music teacher (60K/year). She's a millionaire. He's not expecting to get any of her money I hope. Tell dude to sign the paper and start a new life.
 

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If they were legally married, how can he not be entitled to half of everything? Keep the accounts as separate as you like, you're still married and are 1 financial entity until legally split in half.
 

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He has opened up to us enough to get a picture. He is just a simple person, not very sharp at all, not a pussy as suggested, just not savvy enough in the world.

He is part time music teacher (20K).

She encouraged him to buy a new car in his name only,apparently knowing it would drain his savings account, then a couple weeks later asked for divorce and kicked him out to the street.

He is living with a good friend.
 

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Oklahoma Divorce Laws

http://www.divorcesource.com/ds/oklahoma/oklahoma-divorce-laws-710.shtml


Property Distribution:
Since Oklahoma is an "equitable distribution" state, the marital property shall be divided in an equitable fashion. Equitable does not mean equal, but rather what is fair. The court will encourage the parties to reach a settlement on property and debt issues otherwise the court will declare the property award.

The court shall enter its decree confirming in each spouse the property owned by him or her before marriage and the undisposed-of property acquired after marriage by him or her in his or her own right.

As to such property, whether real or personal, which has been acquired by the parties jointly during their marriage, whether the title thereto be in either or both of said parties, the court shall, subject to a valid antenuptial contract in writing, make such division between the parties as may appear just and reasonable, by a division of the property in kind, or by setting the same apart to one of the parties, and requiring the other thereof to be paid such sum as may be just and proper to effect a fair and just division thereof. The court may set apart a portion of the separate estate of a spouse to the other spouse for the support of the children of the marriage where custody resides with that spouse. (Oklahoma Statutes - Title 43 - Sections: 121)
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I don't get it. He's a music teacher (60K/year). She's a millionaire. He's not expecting to get any of her money I hope. Tell dude to sign the paper and start a new life.

You obviously don't know much about how divorce works in most of the country. "She's a housewife (0k/year) and he's a millionaire. She's not expecting any of his money, I hope." Do you think that's how it works?
 

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not trying to be the turd in the punchbowl and I`m sure he`s a great guy...but if your friend was a part-time music teacher earning 20 k a year,who was paying the bills?...how do you have a savings account on 20 k a year?..

being that`s there are no kids involved,he should make a clean break and find a job that can at least afford him a moderate standard of living....

sounds like she was no bargain.....I wish him well..... .he`s getting a bit of a late start,though...
 
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