anybody end a relationship over monetary matters?

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I mean the he-she, or spousal variety.

I'm very close to both of them so this has been plaguing me for the past 6 weeks.

She split and has some rather bizarre complaints and justification for her leaving. She is a little too secretive--and there is something messing with her head that no one can figure out--and my most promising assessment seems to be a debt-related issue...credit card irresponsibility type matters. I think that there are a few factors but I believe this is a major one.

I know another couple that went through something similar--almost killed their relationship. I think that debt can fuck with people's heads in a way that is a little beyond my comprehension.

I suppose I need to meet with her and just come out and ask the question as I'm sure she won't volunteer such on her own. A few years back she was concerned about the same and I'm surmising that the situation has gotten worst or remained stagnant.

I'll leave it at that.
Can monetary concerns be so pressing that one would risk ending an 18-year relationship over it? She's running away from something and I think that they had (have) a wonderful relationship so I am rather baffled on this situation and I am desperate to help both parties, if at all possible.


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she may not be running away from something

more likely she is running to someone

just my read on woman
 
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THE KOD said:
she may not be running away from something

more likely she is running to someone

just my read on woman
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That is a factor.
Are people that shallow?
It's more complicated than I choose to elaborate here, but my twisted cognition has come up with the prior suggestion as to what is her lack of sanity.

What a fucking waste.
If she is preferring this fucker to what she had than there is clearly something else going on and she is clearly runnng from Hendrix-nows-what is plaguing her. I think it is a number of factors but I believe that she has fucked up economically. shit...that would make things so easy to resolve...perhaps it's just wishful thinking.

This other fuck is just a tool and I think that this was a convenient place to disguise her sorrow.

I don't fucking know.
If she won't disclose to me than she likely won't disclose to anyone. At the same time, when people can't figure out what's going through their own heads then how can they confide in anyone else.

The unexamined life is not worth living.
I guess that doesn't stop us.
 
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lack of sex and money issues cause most divorces...and arguments :facepalm:

the guy is on the hook for half the debt if they split if they are married:scared

glad my divorce is over


the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else :0074
 
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Brother I have been dumped or shitcanned for every known reason to man and never, and I mean never, has it been solely due to economics. That is the factor most cited without a doubt but it also says that irreconcilable differences is the most cited reason on divorce decrees and that is only because no woman in the world will check the "Because I'm ready to get my fuhk on" box. Women are no different then men and all men tAke the easiest way put of everything, well women are no different. She won't want to hurt him on purpose so she will tell him anything but the truth.
 
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fatdaddycool said:
She won't want to hurt him on purpose so she will tell him anything but the truth.
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Holy fuck I hope that isn't the case.
My faith in mankind is diminished enough.
whatevas...if honesty surprises me then resolution can be fathomed.

I dunno...I appreciate the words as this is something I can't relate to but...I dunno...we is lost.

go jays

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hedgehog said:
lack of sex and money issues cause most divorces...and arguments :facepalm:

the guy is on the hook for half the debt if they split if they are married:scared

glad my divorce is over


the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else :0074
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You swung for the fences yet grounded out to the catcher.......:facepalm:
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I come in here and speak the truth and get chastised for it :facepalm:



extra- tell your buddy to fuck her best friend and see if she comes back, works every time :0003
 
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She's 37.
He's 55.
A bit of a difference but it hasn't been an issue in the past.
She'd really like to have a child but my attempt at sumnation suggests such is secondary; something(s) is fucking with her head and, beyond this greenage thing, her words and behaviour make no sense to me.

I appreciate any input.
I have sent my bud the link to this post and he could use any advice on whatevas.

He was born in '56 and will be 56 this December.
Gotta be good mojo.
I can remember the year as it was Mantle's triple crown.
May my memory continue to be wasted.
 
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