About 7 weeks ago mom died.....dad is now alone at home and over the course of around thirty years mom managed to practically fill the whole house with garage sale finds and Barbie dolls and all kinds of stuff from bags full of newspapers....dad even counted gallons of sealed coffee cans and came up with 20....empty mayonaise jars with napkins inside...at one time a few years back I counted over 500 potted plants occupying every window space available...
It would be an understatement to say that mom had O/C hoarding disease......
Over the time since she died myself and the other three siblings have helped out with cleaning up the house....a lot of stuff is going to places like Goodwill.....newspapers are being sent to the recyclers......there is still tons of stuff there as most rooms there were only little paths left to get to the middle of the room.....dad had always complained that the house was a firetrap and luckily no flame ever got loose.....
Dad is getting older, he's about 80 now....his running gears aren't what they used to be....he has trouble with a hip and after a short time his legs give out and he has to take a rest....
He offered a deal to me last week that he would give me free rent in return for helping him clean out the house if I was to move back in to help him out.....I'm almost 40 now....I will probably move back in once we clean out a room for me to move my stuff into.....I will probably help him out with the bills and the like....mowing....cleaning....there's things he can't do anymore and things he can't lift that a 40 year old back can.....
He's thinking about getting a satellite and receiving the dish network.....I will in all likelihood get on a wireless computer system as DSL in that area is around $100 a month compared to $30ish for wireless.....I started out with dial-up and refuse to go back to the stone age.....
Distance is not a factor as I live around 10 miles from where he does so my job will not be effected by moving......
I'm thinking that he might be a bit lonely since mom passed on, and he could really use the help...kinda strange, whenever I go up there it seems like mom is just in the other room and I expect her to come walking around the corner anytime....I have no significant other in my own life so that area of my life is really unaffected and I don't foresee telling some woman in the near future that I live with dad.......kinda something moving back home when you're 40, but the circumstances are different than if I was unemployed and had to beg to stay there awhile until I got back on my feet.....
I was looking for a house before mom died but now I think I might end up living with dad until the point comes to when or if he needs more extensive help than I can provide......
I need to know your guys thoughts on this whole issue....I know some of you may have already been through this or are going through this....what am I going to go through and what should I expect out of this situation.....?????
It would be an understatement to say that mom had O/C hoarding disease......
Over the time since she died myself and the other three siblings have helped out with cleaning up the house....a lot of stuff is going to places like Goodwill.....newspapers are being sent to the recyclers......there is still tons of stuff there as most rooms there were only little paths left to get to the middle of the room.....dad had always complained that the house was a firetrap and luckily no flame ever got loose.....
Dad is getting older, he's about 80 now....his running gears aren't what they used to be....he has trouble with a hip and after a short time his legs give out and he has to take a rest....
He offered a deal to me last week that he would give me free rent in return for helping him clean out the house if I was to move back in to help him out.....I'm almost 40 now....I will probably move back in once we clean out a room for me to move my stuff into.....I will probably help him out with the bills and the like....mowing....cleaning....there's things he can't do anymore and things he can't lift that a 40 year old back can.....
He's thinking about getting a satellite and receiving the dish network.....I will in all likelihood get on a wireless computer system as DSL in that area is around $100 a month compared to $30ish for wireless.....I started out with dial-up and refuse to go back to the stone age.....
Distance is not a factor as I live around 10 miles from where he does so my job will not be effected by moving......
I'm thinking that he might be a bit lonely since mom passed on, and he could really use the help...kinda strange, whenever I go up there it seems like mom is just in the other room and I expect her to come walking around the corner anytime....I have no significant other in my own life so that area of my life is really unaffected and I don't foresee telling some woman in the near future that I live with dad.......kinda something moving back home when you're 40, but the circumstances are different than if I was unemployed and had to beg to stay there awhile until I got back on my feet.....
I was looking for a house before mom died but now I think I might end up living with dad until the point comes to when or if he needs more extensive help than I can provide......
I need to know your guys thoughts on this whole issue....I know some of you may have already been through this or are going through this....what am I going to go through and what should I expect out of this situation.....?????