Question

[greggraffin]

I asked a friend last night to take me to the airport for this morning's flight

He showed up late this morning to pick me up, and I had to pay a 50 dollar change fee to book a later flight

50 bucks isn't anything

but it's bothering me that he didn't offer to pick up the tab or at least split it

What would you do?

let it go and just eat it

ask him to pay half

ask him to pay the full

 

[Old School]

ACCOUNTABILITY

RESPONSIBILITY


I have taken the approach of.."will not ask you again."

I find some of my even closest friends now don't put the highest priority on being where you say who will be at the exact time or earlier as agreed upon.

If it isn't that important to him then his existance nor any friendship payment shouldn't be either.

ACCOUNTABILITY..

RESPONSIBILITY..

live..be it...demand it..

 

[THE KOD]

I asked a friend last night to take me to the airport for this morning's flight

He showed up late this morning to pick me up, and I had to pay a 50 dollar change fee to book a later flight

50 bucks isn't anything

but it's bothering me that he didn't offer to pick up the tab or at least split it

What would you do?

let it go and just eat it

ask him to pay half

ask him to pay the full

..............................................................

Just let it go. No way you hold the friend responsible.

If it was that important to make it to the airport on time you would drive your own car and park it, or taken a taxi for 50 bucks.

PS - dont ask that friend again to take you to a place where time is a issue.

 

[Woodson]

"So listen to this shit. Greg called out of the blue and asked for a ride to the airport. No problem. It was an early departure and traffic was bad. I was going out of my way to take him."

"Wow, man, that was nice of you." says your mutual friend in response.

"Yea, thats what I thought, until he asked me to pay $50 because he arrived late...?"

"Are you serious?!"

"Fawk that, I was doing him a favor. You know the funny part? He didn't offer to pay for my gas..."


I'd reconsider doing anything but thanking him and returning the favor. And I wouldn't ask him for anything that consists of being on time again....

 

[MadJack]

If it was MY friend I would have bitched him out, that's all. I wouldn't take the 50 bucks even if he offered. Bitching him out is enough and I wouldn't ask him again.

 

[BUCSnotYUCKS]

I'm the type of person who if they say they'll be there at 9pm, I'll be there at 8:45, 8:50. I think it's COMPLETELY disrespectful to tell someone you will be somewhere(especially when it's this important) and to show up late. It would piss me off if I were you.

Yeah, he doesn't have to help you out. Yeah, you shouldn't have to rely on him. But if someone tells you they're gonna do something and they'll be on time, then they should do it.

 

[Sportsaholic]

I asked a friend last night to take me to the airport for this morning's flight

He showed up late this morning to pick me up, and I had to pay a 50 dollar change fee to book a later flight

50 bucks isn't anything

but it's bothering me that he didn't offer to pick up the tab or at least split it

What would you do?

let it go and just eat it

ask him to pay half

ask him to pay the full

Did your friend charge you for gas or time to get you to the Airport? Did you offer him a meal or beer in adavance for the favor?


Unfortunate you were late, but you sound a little selfish about the $50 :shrug:

 

[Old School]

I'm the type of person who if they say they'll be there at 9pm, I'll be there at 8:45, 8:50. I think it's COMPLETELY disrespectful to tell someone you will be somewhere(especially when it's this important) and to show up late. It would piss me off if I were you.

Yeah, he doesn't have to help you out. Yeah, you shouldn't have to rely on him. But if someone tells you they're gonna do something and they'll be on time, then they should do it.

POST OF THE YEAR..

 

[BUCSnotYUCKS]

I wouldn't ask him again.

this too

 

[greggraffin]

Did your friend charge you for gas or time to get you to the Airport? Did you offer him a meal or beer in adavance for the favor?


Unfortunate you were late, but you sound a little selfish about the $50 :shrug:

yeah, i covered his dinner last night when the convo came up

 

[Sportsaholic]

yeah, i covered his dinner last night when the convo came up

Then I'd eat the $50 then go and bone his wife :0008

 

[greggraffin]

If it was MY friend I would have bitched him out, that's all. I wouldn't take the 50 bucks even if he offered. Bitching him out is enough and I wouldn't ask him again.

you're right, i'll give him loads of shit and let it go, not worth it:0008

 

[BUCSnotYUCKS]

Did your friend charge you for gas or time to get you to the Airport? Did you offer him a meal or beer in adavance for the favor?


Unfortunate you were late, but you sound a little selfish about the $50 :shrug:

If I ever have needed a ride somewhere, I always OFFER gas money. Because I know how awkward it is to ASK for gas money...you shouldn't have to. I think out of respect, that's what friends do. Friends/Family, they take care of each other.

This is something I'd say "Hey Joe, I need a ride to the airport next Thursday, I gotta be there by 9am. If you can do it, I can throw ya some gas money and we can stop somewhere and get breakfast on me if you wanna go a little earlier." - I don't care what anyone says. When it comes to friends/family(especially MEN, money and FOOD talks):mj07:

 

[Woodson]

Not that your reading my post but I'd imagine that tidbit would be included prior to the responses.

Having paid for his dinner in agreement of taking you to the airport, I'm not so sure that would have been left out of your argument.

Devil's Advocate.

 

[greggraffin]

Not that your reading my post but I'd imagine that tidbit would be included prior to the responses.

Having paid for his dinner in agreement of taking you to the airport, I'm not so sure that would have been left out of your argument.

Devil's Advocate.

It's all good, i feel better now that i read some of the posts, I like the guy enough to not let a little money ruin it, I'll chalk it up to a one time fluke, if it happens again , "shame on me",

as bucs said, i wasn't happy about it especially cause it ruined some plans back at home

as for the dinner, it's not that big of a deal, we go back and forth with covering each other

 

[Skulnik]

Then I'd eat the $50 then go and bone his wife :0008

:mj07:

:0074

 

[Woodson]

I hear you. I had to realize that being accountable for dinner plans, social events, everything is no longer a social norm.

I'm the sort to show up prior and prepared.

People see it as a OCD. I see it as accountable.

My point? These days an individual would rather manipulate in their favor for an excuse to appear in the norm than to admit a fault and apologize.

Not everyone, but a lot of people.

Hope it was a safe flight.

 

[BUCSnotYUCKS]

The part that would piss me off isn't even the $50. It's the lack of respect. He clearly doesn't respect you enough to show up on time.

 

[gardenweasel]

"So listen to this shit. Greg called out of the blue and asked for a ride to the airport. No problem. It was an early departure and traffic was bad. I was going out of my way to take him."

"Wow, man, that was nice of you." says your mutual friend in response.

"Yea, thats what I thought, until he asked me to pay $50 because he arrived late...?"

"Are you serious?!"

"Fawk that, I was doing him a favor. You know the funny part? He didn't offer to pay for my gas..."


I'd reconsider doing anything but thanking him and returning the favor. And I wouldn't ask him for anything that consists of being on time again....

this....

 

[greggraffin]

I hear you. I had to realize that being accountable for dinner plans, social events, everything is no longer a social norm.

I'm the sort to show up prior and prepared.

People see it as a OCD. I see it as accountable.

My point? These days an individual would rather manipulate in their favor for an excuse to appear in the norm than to admit a fault and apologize.

Not everyone, but a lot of people.

Hope it was a safe flight.

thanks man, ..., i agree with you and oldschool, im sure your friends appreciate that you are reliable...:toast: