I was just watching Sue Johannsen who is essentially Canada's answer to Dr. Ruth Westheimer. She was doing a show where she was answering questions from University students about sex.
One person in the crowd asked what was the most common question she received and her answer was that the most common topic by far and away was on anal sex. She stated that as a sex therapist it was always her viewpoint that this was a dangerous practice due to the ease of which AIDS and sexually transmitted diseases could be passed, and also because it can cause fissures. But now she states that after discussing it with many people and other doctors it is her opinion that this is
"something that every couple in a monogamous relationship should try." Her reasoning for this is (are you ready)
"Anal sex is always on the back of a man's mind. So allowing the man to exercise his normal craving for this will allow the relationship to move forward since that issue will be dealt with once and for all." She does caution however that the man should wear a condom.
My question is this - Is this on the back of every man's mind until it happens in the relationship? I thought that was a very bizzarre comment. Personally I've never tried it so I can't comment and while I may have thought about it occassionally (the wife won't even consider it though), I'm certainly not preoccupied by it.
For those who have never tried it and are in a long term relationship do you often think about it?
And for those who have tried it, is it that big a deal?
Again I just found the whole question/answer period interesting
1- Because there is a belief that everyone is preoccupied by it and
2- That it is the most common topic she is asked about.
One person in the crowd asked what was the most common question she received and her answer was that the most common topic by far and away was on anal sex. She stated that as a sex therapist it was always her viewpoint that this was a dangerous practice due to the ease of which AIDS and sexually transmitted diseases could be passed, and also because it can cause fissures. But now she states that after discussing it with many people and other doctors it is her opinion that this is
"something that every couple in a monogamous relationship should try." Her reasoning for this is (are you ready)
"Anal sex is always on the back of a man's mind. So allowing the man to exercise his normal craving for this will allow the relationship to move forward since that issue will be dealt with once and for all." She does caution however that the man should wear a condom.
My question is this - Is this on the back of every man's mind until it happens in the relationship? I thought that was a very bizzarre comment. Personally I've never tried it so I can't comment and while I may have thought about it occassionally (the wife won't even consider it though), I'm certainly not preoccupied by it.
For those who have never tried it and are in a long term relationship do you often think about it?
And for those who have tried it, is it that big a deal?
Again I just found the whole question/answer period interesting
1- Because there is a belief that everyone is preoccupied by it and
2- That it is the most common topic she is asked about.