Anyone wonder about being married????

maverick2112

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Like anything me and my wife have our ups and downs (more downs lately)........sometimes I just wonder if this day and age combined with my personality and habits just make me the kind of person who should be single.........the first yr of marriage was good but this second year is giving me more headaches than betting on the Lakers.... :confused:
 

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Times get tough now and again but if you married the right women it will work itself out.Everyone has there doubts but talk about the problems don't ignore them! Been married 12 years and have been with my wife 15. If you think she worth it witch I hope you do becuase you married her. Then try hard and go back to the basic of what you both enjoyed at the start.
 

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Re: Anyone wonder about being married????

Mav-
How old are you? If you're my age (25) or younger, man, I just can't imagine what it'd be like to be married that young. It was the thing to do seemingly in the town I grew up in, lotsa 19-22 year olds getting married. I hope things work out how you want them to.
 

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There inlies my question for myself. I am 39 and have never been married, but have practiced a lot. Now that I have experienced so many diverse women, I find it more difficult to say, "I'll take that one for the rest of my life.".........I also have the problem caused by being relatively educated and having spent quite a few years MC-ing in titty bars. I have had more hot women than any ten men deserve. I have also had chicks that are on full ride scholarships to Notre Dame for their smarts. Hard to find the right mix. Having the slut that will wear just about anything and make every guy's head in the place turn, but can talk about nothing but the weather, and half of the time they get that wrong. Then there's the chick that wil spend a Friday night curled up with a book and can challenge you mentally and stimulate you in many ways, but when it comes to the bedroom you fall asleep from their lack of experience, or willingness to let themselves go. Not really their issue however, I realize that had I not delved into the dirty world that I had, that I wouldn't be expecting so much. Unfortunately, I can't erase it from my mind, and so the dilemma continues..............:confused: ..........I wish you luck however, and as others have said, you weren't a young sprout when you got into it, so you should have some support for your intial decision. Nothing worthwhile comes easy. AMerica's problem is that is too easy to ail on a marriage, and that's why more than 50% of them fail. It's too easy to just walk away and get on with your life.....Good luck, Brother!
 

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Keyser............I feel a little bit like you.........I chased and had a helluva lot of fun before turning 36 and sometimes I feel like I know whats it like on the other side of the fence and just wonder if that side isnt a lot less stressful and peaceful. If I hadnt been exposed to this lifestyle then I wouldnt know what sometimes I am missing:) ............The marriage gig is a lot of work........
 

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sportsnut13 said:
Times get tough now and again but if you married the right women it will work itself out.Everyone has there doubts but talk about the problems don't ignore them! Been married 12 years and have been with my wife 15. If you think she worth it witch I hope you do becuase you married her. Then try hard and go back to the basic of what you both enjoyed at the start.

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Keyser............I feel a little bit like you.........I chased and had a helluva lot of fun before turning 36 and sometimes I feel like I know whats it like on the other side of the fence and just wonder if that side isnt a lot less stressful and peaceful. If I hadnt been exposed to this lifestyle then I wouldnt know what sometimes I am missing ............The marriage gig is a lot of work........

I think this is something that most men go through when they are married. I also had many experiences on the single side being a bartender and managing a bar/restaurant for years. I can say for a fact that it does not compare to being married (if you are with the right person). There are certainly days (nights) when I wish I could just pick up and head to the bar with the guys, but the rewards are too great being with my wife. She is my complete support system and with a baby on the way, the nights with the boys are only going to get less frequent.

But, once again, I wouldn't change it for the world. It helps that my wife is one of the greatest people I have ever met. If you have this serious of doubts, then you may not be in the right relationship.
 

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dawgball said:
I also had many experiences on the single side being a bartender and managing a bar/restaurant for years.

Would the pope have approved of this? ;) :tongue

j/k my Catholic friend.



To answer the question, I don't have second thoughts about being married, and I am happy the majority of the time. A book that might help u with a lot of stuff is this The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman. Once I learned my wife's "love language", and she learned mine, that has solved lots of our problems. I think we also became closer when we got rid of separate checking accounts and started paying all bills expenses out of 1 that has our combined money. GL!
 

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I WAS happily married too...She WAS a great wife and we had great times together...WHEN she was SOBER...I'm currently a single father with twins. Marriage is nowhere in my future. I'm happy for all of those who are currently married and wish them the best...Needless to say, I'm alittle jealous too...Hang in there man...Do whatever you can to save your marriage until there just isn't anyway to resolve things...Best of luck...
 

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Been married for 13 yrs and never wished I wasnt . Even through our worst fights we sometimes just have to look at each other and laugh. The best part about getting angry with each other is getting to make-up.
 

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Me and my fi are getting married in 78 days!! I always liked the single life. I always said I would never get married but when I meant him I just knew. ;) Someone posted earlier make sure you communicate and we do so I hope that is the key to sucess. GOOD LUCK!!

Missy
 

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Yes, I wonder why anyone gets married these days.

Divorce is $$$

Cheating is far too common.

And does anyone really think monogamy is natural? ... I mean, come on, everyone likes variety including most women.
 

SixFive

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Lightning said:
Yes, I wonder why anyone gets married these days.

Divorce is $$$

Cheating is far too common.

And does anyone really think monogamy is natural? ... I mean, come on, everyone likes variety including most women.

Totally disagree with your whole post. gl.
 

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Got married at 38. Waited for the right one and she is great! Been married a little over 6 years. Had some rough spots and it is my experience that it is usually caused by some disagreement over kid-raising. You gotta talk and be sure you are telling her that "love" thing often.

I was happily single and would not have messed that up unless she was the perfect one. Decide if it is worth saving the relationship and if it is you gotta do it. Don't look back and have regrets later that you could'a should'a.

I'm no expert on women but hope this helps and good luck.
 
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