Anyone wonder about being married????

[edludes]

A reply to Keyser Soze-Your post sounds very familiar.I got married at 49.If you don't mind spending under $20 to get an answer,I'd recommend a book called "The Enneagram in
Work and Love" by Helen Palmer.Enneagram is Greek for nine pointed star and the theory sayes that there are only nine types of people from a motivational standpoint. Its not a cover to cover read,you figure out which type of the nine you might be in the beginning of the book and go to that chapter first.I am a #Seven,you sound as though you might be one as well.The way sevens grow is to commit,which means fighting back the types of doubts you mentioned in your post.Anyway,I found a lot of clarity from reading this book,in relation to my former reluctance to commit,as well as a myriad of other things about understanding myself and others in my life. Good Luck

 

[Hoops]

And does anyone really think monogamy is natural?

Of course it's not natural.

 

[Lightning]

Of course it's not natural.

Exactly ... so why does society and the church try and force it down our throats.

I believe most people would be happier if we just mated like animals and it was accepted.

 

[Hoops]

Exactly ... so why does society and the church try and force it down our throats.

I believe most people would be happier if we just mated like animals and it was accepted.

That's just the way things have turned out in our society. Though it's becoming more and more apparent with divorce rates that marriage isn't exactly what most people thought it would be. Find your wife or husband when you're twenty years old and have no clue about life, have your 2.7 kids, and everything will be all peaches and cream from there on out...usually isn't the case.

 

[Chanman]

Exactly ... so why does society and the church try and force it down our throats.

I believe most people would be happier if we just mated like animals and it was accepted.

Lightning- more power to you, (I'm sure Ron Jeremy agrees), but I feel alot differently. Got married @ 33 and our 17 year anniversary is coming up this year. Feels like we are still on our Honeymoon in Bangkok. Best thing rhat ever happened to me. No fighting, no grudges, no problems & no bullshit. Main thing is I don't take advantage of her and vica versa. She prolly got the sh*t end of the stick on the deal, but its all roses on my end. And I have a romp visiting her family, i.e.,
http://www.tahitianqueen.com/homeframeset.htm

Best to Missy and maybe it's a roll of the dice, BUT half-*ssed poster, unlucky@ gambling & LUCKY@ LOVE :weed:

 

[Bluemound Freak]

Dang I am getting married two weeks from tommorow....this is scary!!!!!!:shrug:

 

[dawgball]

Exactly ... so why does society and the church try and force it down our throats.

I don't understand statements like this. Marriage is a personal choice. I don't believe there has ever been a movement by church or state to make it mandatory. There are tax exemptions for being married (but there are tax exemptions for just about everything now), but I think the idea behind this originally was to support children. Now, with everyone's hand out, this may be outdated. There are people that certainly abuse this. I, personally, did not get married for anything to do with finances.

I have friends that married young and are already divorced. I have friends that married young and are still togehter. I married at 28 (probably middle of the road in marriage age). I also have friends that will probably stay single for the rest of their lives. All personal choices.

Hoops--you always seem to have a very angry view on things like this. Why is that? Just curious.

 

[Eddie Haskell]

Best thing for my marriage has been cheating. Last year, I had several girlfriends on the side (Mel, Hel, Tara and NickieD). Bangin theses younger babes keeps me young and my marriage to the trophy wife exciting. Gotta love the action.

My advice to all, is cheat on your spouse. It will benefit your marriage.

Eddie

 

[bjfinste]

I believe most people would be happier if we just mated like animals and it was accepted.

I think what makes that hard is human emotions. I know a lot of people who would love to not worry about monogamy and being faithful, but on the flip side would become insanely jealous at the thought of their girlfriend doing the same.

Animals don't possess those strong emotions. That's where monogamy comes from, I think. But you're right, it's not natural.

 

[Justinsmom829]

Good Luck Bluemond ... you must be freaking out I know I am.

Well, I am young and my fi is young but we know this is right. I don't believe in cheating and I would never cheat. I loved the single life. Parties, guys and fun but I love being with one person.. the man of my dreams for the rest of my life. (corny I know but true)

Missy

 

[Lightning]

Good Luck Bluemond ... you must be freaking out I know I am.

Well, I am young and my fi is young but we know this is right. I don't believe in cheating and I would never cheat. I loved the single life. Parties, guys and fun but I love being with one person.. the man of my dreams for the rest of my life. (corny I know but true)

Missy

Good Luck Missy ... and Bluemound too.

I am not at all opposed to marriage ... I just think it's very much like gambling ... not enough reward and lots of risk.

Of course, I do still gamble but I do not plan on marrying again.

I do not have kids and most of my married friends who do wish they were like me ... at least that is what they constantly tell me.

:com:

 

[StevieD]

Best of luck to Blue and Justinsmom. Hell. I wonder what it is like not to be married. Married my high school sweetheart 30 years ago. Apparantly, I was such a good find she married me young! Just joking. Really the best thing I ever did was marry my wife. I am very lucky. I hope you all find the happiness I did. It takes work sometimes and everything isn't always easy but if you get the right one you will be blessed.

 

[SixFive]

Exactly ... so why does society and the church try and force it down our throats.

I believe most people would be happier if we just mated like animals and it was accepted.

Seems like that's what is happening most places now anyway. It is accepted by many.

 

[Marco]

A friend of mine lived with the same woman for 10 years, then they got married.

Marriage lasted 8 months.

Seems like expectations changed once they said vows.

Personally, I'm single....doubt I'll ever get anywhere close to where some of the other posters in this thread are going, as far as the marriage thing.....guess I'm too picky.....maybe prejudgemental towards women.....

If anything I've learned there are four groups of women to stay away from....your list may be different...

1) The party girl

2) The church lady

3) The bitch

4) The drama queen

......most women fit into any of these 4 groups, maybe that's why I'm single.......more and more I find myself cherishing my freedoms and not having my weekends planned out, all the things on the honey-do list, having to go here or there and get drug around when there's a game on this weekend and I can't watch it.....

Another friend of mine complains that he has subscriptions to satellite sports programming......he can't watch them cuz he's getting drug around like a dog on a chain.

Good luck if you do get married, it's your choice whatever you want to do....just don't be surprised when things change from what they once were before marriage, I have many friends who have stated the same thing.....

 

[Wilson]

10 years ago in October..My wife and I eloped...she moved to Cincy with me (Job) and being Catholic..It didn't sit too well with my father in law. I remember going to a priest on a Tuesday night and he married us in his house...I vividly remember saying to myself..WTF am I doing? I remember making all these stipulations as we were driving to this priest's house..."you can't take gambling, snuff, beer etc away from me, EVER" She was agreeing with everything.

Well, after we did it we told our parents and then planned a big formal wedding the following year...so, I got to marry her twice.

Well, ten years and three children later...I type this with about a grand layed on NBA playoffs, big dip of snuff in my mouth and three cases of Bud in fridge.

I got lucky. Well, she got lucky...we both are pretty damn happy and lucky.

 

[ELVIS]

much like wilson, wo/ the dip. been married for almost 8 yrs. my mantle is covered with oakland raider sb plaques (yes, all 3 ) i am living the dream. we watch football and basketball together most of the time. we have one child and one on the way. many ups and downs, but she is solid as an oak. i drink red wine every night and my batting avg. in the sack is at least .600. when will it end ? i do not know, but i am a very lucky man. did i forget to mention that she graduated from pharmacy school today ? anyway, marriage is not all bad. it can be very good. gl, either way.

 

[Fat & Sassy]

Wilson, You Kill Me?.. I never knew you married her twice?:shrug:

Been married 13 yrs, have 3 beautiful children, and still think of my wife when I'm mad jacking off....:look: Have absolutely no regrets.....

I'd be dead or in jail if it wasn't for my wife...

3 secrets to marriage

1) Don't cheat on each other - You gotta be able to trust you're best friend. Don't be jelous
2) When moneys tight don't fight - There is no mine and yours in marriage. You will soon realize the money is for the kids anyway, you will be lucky to have elastic in you're underwear.
3)Fawk the hell out of each other. I mean it, screw each others brains out. Send video to F&S@aol.com

 

[slick willy 17]

A wise man I know once said to me, Bill, love is grand. But divorce is 50 grand. I'm sure I will eventually, but not for a while.