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My wifes best friend since grade school is now a 56 year old lady. She always hated the computer but for some reason she just discovered Facebook. My wife, does not have Facebook but I do and my 23 year old Daughter does. My daughter is suffering terribly from Manic Depression. Despite graduating from the Culinary Isnstitute of America she has been unable to work since the beginning of January. Previous to that she had 4 c-section type surgeries in a year to remove a tumor from her ovaries and complications. So it has not been a good couple of years.
This lady knows all this. And she is not trying to be mean but she is a pain in the A$$.
She feels the need to tell us when she wakes up. "Good morning! I am up!" She posts "insperational sayings" And she feels the need to comment of every post. If she is not writing on the wall she is sending In Box messages.
One wall message she posted on my daughters wall was (Daughter Name) Tell your problems to God.
I get it too from her but I just fluff it off. I told my daughter to just ignore her.
So she sent my daughter an INBOX message. "I guess you have me on hide because you never answer my comments. I'm going to bed now. Have a goodnight."
I don't need this nut and it is worse for my daughter who is just this side of a nervous breakdown on a good day.
Any hints on how to nicely tell this nut to get a life.
 
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Simple

Have your daughter delete her as a friend.

And, I hope things get better for her and your family.

I have had the same thing happen with friends from 20 years ago... My wife's ex boyfriend as well as an ex of mine have tried reconnecting on a "new level... "

Riiiiight. Let's be friends seeing as you were bat shit crazy seven years ago...

Anyways, I hope it works out for you both.
 
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StevieD said:
Here is the thing. My wife worships this person for some reason and doesn't want us to hurt her feelings.
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That is complicated. Maybe try to walk your wife through your daughters perception of the events.

Privacy of one's personal life should come first.

This sounds like a blatant intrusion to me... :shrug:
 
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First step if you think the woman "means well" is to be honest and tell her in a nice way "Thanks but No Thanks." Maybe the woman has reached middle age and has her own issues with depression, growing old, unwanted, etc. Why be mean to her right off the bat? The next person she does this to may appreciate it. If she has always been this way be a little more stern with her and tell her to knock it off. I could be wrong, just my opinion. What we sometimes think are subtle "messages" to people aren't always received in the manner that we intend them.
 
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BuckwheatJWN said:
First step if you think the woman "means well" is to be honest and tell her in a nice way "Thanks but No Thanks." Maybe the woman has reached middle age and has her own issues with depression, growing old, unwanted, etc. Why be mean to her right off the bat? The next person she does this to may appreciate it. If she has always been this way be a little more stern with her and tell her to knock it off. I could be wrong, just my opinion. What we sometimes think are subtle "messages" to people aren't always received in the manner that we intend them.
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Exactly, this lady has issues too. And she thinks she is doing a good thing.
 
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i would have your daughter delete her as a friend - and let her stay on as yours, that way shes still in touch and if she gets carried away--you'd be the only one privvy to--though would need a lil cooperation in placating with responses on your behalf to appease your wife's wishes. that would be my suggest. GL - on all counts, with your daughter and your facebook friend. -t
 
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StevieD said:
Here is the thing. My wife worships this person for some reason and doesn't want us to hurt her feelings.
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If your wife is your daughter's mother, then ask your wife to rethink her priorities. This lady's feelings vs. your daughter's well-being seems like a no-brainer from the information you've provided.
 
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StevieD said:
It's ok by me but we never had this conversation. :SIB
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Tell her you know this great guy named Chad who thinks just like her. Have her add me as a friend. I promise you I will run her off of FB in less than a week :)

Happy to help!
 
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Agent 0659 said:
Tell her you know this great guy named Chad who thinks just like her. Have her add me as a friend. I promise you I will run her off of FB in less than a week :)

Happy to help!
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I was going to go to her high school class and say she is looking for relationships! :142smilie :142smilie
 
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Cie Grant said:
If your wife is your daughter's mother, then ask your wife to rethink her priorities. This lady's feelings vs. your daughter's well-being seems like a no-brainer from the information you've provided.
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Cie you are right. My wife is thinking about speaking to her. Just trying to say it in a way that doesn't hurt any feelings. But if worst comes to worst there is no question my wife will tell her off. In all honesty my daughter SHOULD be able to see the humor (?) in the whole situation. But mentally she is unable to at this point. Now, tomorrow she might be in a manic state and it won't bother her. It is a very hard problem for everybody concerned.
 
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