I hate life.

[3 Seconds]

My wife & I are getting divorced. Been together for 7+ years now & we have hit the end.

I will be filling for the divorce, but its mostly my fault. I have not been there for her emotionally & failed miserably with communications.

It all boiled down to a big fight 3 months ago & I said some pretty hurtful things that broke her heart for the last time. She told me that before that night she swore would be together forever, but after the cruel things I said (of course didnt mean, but that doesnt change the effects) she didnt feel the same way. A part of her heart died that night & she said it wasnt coming back. She said she barely could breathe & couldnt believe the man she loved so deeply could say such hurtful things, how could I love her & want to protect her & be that way.

So then about 4 weeks ago she cheated on me when she went back to her hometown for the weekend to see her parents & I found out last week. She admitted it all. It happened 2x now w/ the same guy & supposedly she is falling in love with hiim. She has lied/deceived & then done it some more for the past 3 weeks while I have been trying to save the marriage, but she simply says she is done, she doesnt want to work on it, she never wants to feel the hurt I caused her again.

This is terribly sad for me. I love my wife dearly & wish I could have seen the error of my ways earlier & this all could have been avoided. Its over for good & there is an absolutle finality to it. Nothing I can do or say now. Never thought I would be a divorcee.
It got to the point where I almost put an end to all for me, but a friend got me through it. Scary times for sure. I was on the brink.

I hate life.

 

[The Sponge]

Geez sec u will get past this. It will take a ton of time but u will survive. Hang in there buddy. It has been a rough year for you but u need to forget about those crazy thoughts and regroup.

 

[vinnie]

I read at another forum that 6 seconds was banging a married chick wonder if it's him :shrug:

 

[StevieD]

Hang tough.

 

[ferdville]

Problem is you are only remembering the good times - blocking out the problems. You may end up wasting (maybe not best word) years of your life trying to get back together or blaming yourself. Don't do it. Put it behind you and move on. It sounds bad, but in my opinion it will work out better in the end. Speaking from experience here.

 

[UGA12]

I read at another forum that 6 seconds was banging a married chick wonder if it's him :shrug:

Hang in there 3seconds, nothing said here will make it easier, but it will eventually pass. Good Luck

 

[Lumi]

3 seconds,

I have been divorced twice, and it hurts like a mutha ! Daily I re-live the the stupid shit I said and did, but you can't put the toothpaste back in the tube.

Be careful what you do and say next, seek counseling.

 

[jr11]

Hate to hear or see this with anyone. I know the feeling, although my situation was obviously different, but the emotions are similar. I am still trying to make it through each day. It is a challenge no doubt. Not sure what anyone can say but hang in there.

 

[3 Seconds]

Thanks for the support!

I am actually in therapy to help deal w/ this & for some mild chronic depression.

All I do is smoke cigs (I had quit), & drink some beers at night as we still live in the same house for next 2-3 weeks its going to be hell seeing her everyday.

I have lost 20 pounds in 4 weeks & I was not a big guy to begin with...down to 165.

 

[dogface]

I lasted 7 years, nothing like you stated but similiar in the fact taht I was and am dead set against divorce, but there was no othe roptions. Two different people, and going in different directions. She got the dog, I got the son... and I couldn't be happier. 1st 6 months you feel like crap, but now emotionally removed form the situation... I don't know why I would have tried to stay. Much better life, with us not together.

One last word, suicide is FINAL, no other selfish act out there that can say that. Emotions run their course, keep a cool head, find outlets, but get your tjhoughts straight my friend. DOn't ever let another person push you with those thoughts, just ain't worth it. There is a tomorrow, there are other women out there you will love, there are other events to get you through. Just ask Jack, he thinks the Raven's will win another SuperBowl!!

dogface

 

[dogface]

Thanks for the support!

I am actually in therapy to help deal w/ this & for some mild chronic depression.

All I do is smoke cigs (I had quit), & drink some beers at night as we still live in the same house for next 2-3 weeks its going to be hell seeing her everyday.

I have lost 20 pounds in 4 weeks & I was not a big guy to begin with...down to 165.

I moved out the same day we decided and let her stay in the house. I suggest you do the same. Nothing good comes from staying there!!! Friends house, family, hotel, whatever.. but get out and arrange time to get your stuff! People do not act rational when hurting, and that goes for your wife!

dogface

 

[RAYMOND]

HANG IN THERE , BEST OF LUCK

 

[jer-z jock]

Thanks for the support!

I am actually in therapy to help deal w/ this & for some mild chronic depression.

All I do is smoke cigs (I had quit), & drink some beers at night as we still live in the same house for next 2-3 weeks its going to be hell seeing her everyday.

I have lost 20 pounds in 4 weeks & I was not a big guy to begin with...down to 165.

Me saying this may sound like bullshit but dude u gotta snap up, she's running around with an old flame and your melting away infront of her. BE A MAN, THE MAN SHE ONCE LOVED AND KNEW YOU TO BE, it's over well it's over, dont let her see you sulk and pity it. Remember YOU MADE THE MISTAKE, you gotta eat it. Wish her well and mend the wounds....its like losing your first love as a young man, NOONE ever thought you could replace a steady piece of ass, especially one that made us feel like that right? Well we as men come to find out there's plenty of women that make us feel like that. It took time but you loved again then and will again do so. BOL with it, but dont let it eat you alive and as a previous poster stated, life is too short already to think about quickening any...wish her well and happiness...it's all you can do for her now, if you really do care and or love her...that should be your desired result for her with or without you as her hubby.

 

[MadJack]

here ya go, bro. very helpful forum that will give you all the support you need and all the answers you're looking for. i suspect that you will spend many hours reading and possibly getting involved in their community. it sure helped me when i went through the same exact thing 7 years ago. just take a look around and read the forums that apply to your needs.

http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php

you WILL get over this and everybody is going to tell you that but it's true. you WILL get over this and most possibly will be glad things happened the way they did.

take care.

 

[kosar]

Friends house, family, hotel, whatever.. but get out and arrange time to get your stuff! People do not act rational when hurting, and that goes for your wife!

Yeah man, you have to get out of there asap. Like now. Please get those thoughts of suicide out of your head.

All the best, and although it doesn't seem like it, over time this will fade into a distant memory.

 

[layinwood]

I know this isn't great advice to give someone and others may come on here and bash me but I'm going to say it anyway. You need to go beat the shit out of the guy. He's knows she's married to you and that's the consequence of his actions so I don't feel bad for him. Of course she made the decision to but you're divorcing her so that's her consequence. Maybe I'm a little more violent than some but I feel that's only fair.

My wife and I have been together for 7 years, I can't imagine what you're going thru. Keep your head up man, life will get better and next time you'll understand how hurtful words can be and also how much they can help if used in the right way. Communication, although simple, is the hardest thing for most guys to be good at.

 

[smurphy]

...down to 165.

Agent can do that.

 

[MadJack]

I know this isn't great advice to give someone and others may come on here and bash me but I'm going to say it anyway. You need to go beat the shit out of the guy. He's knows she's married to you and that's the consequence of his actions so I don't feel bad for him. Of course she made the decision to but you're divorcing her so that's her consequence. Maybe I'm a little more violent than some but I feel that's only fair.

My wife and I have been together for 7 years, I can't imagine what you're going thru. Keep your head up man, life will get better and next time you'll understand how hurtful words can be and also how much they can help if used in the right way. Communication, although simple, is the hardest thing for most guys to be good at.

that will do absolute nothing but land him in jail and a huge lawsuit. nah, that's bad advice and it will not make him feel any better at all. it's only going to piss his wife off even more than she is already. :nono:

 

[MadJack]

and if you want her back, that's possible too. that website i posted above will give you the answers. she's just going to have to get though what's she's going through and you could get her back if handled correctly.

i could have gotten mine back too but by the time she was ready to come back i had already moved on and didn't want her back.

 

[kegray1]

Hang in there as women come and go,but Longhorn football season only comes once a year.
Less than two months away my friend.
Take some time to yourself, get ready for football season, and when the mood hits you jump onto a onliine dating service and grab you a young philly.

The really desperate are on craigslist if you are looking for easy prey.:mj07:

My friend is not looking for love, just a night out and some good lovin and he grabs a chick a week at least off there.

The good news is you are at the bottom and at least you are fighting.
Don't do anything stupid because I need some backup trash talk with my Horns this season.:mj06: