PRENUP ADVICE

[backcracker]

Totally concur toaist that was my exact quote I worked my ass off to get here and I am not gonna give it away if things dont work out. So I told her I have met with attorney now I need to get her to go in and sign docs but her exact quote is "well maybe now I need an attorney to make sure I'm not getting screwed what am I worth if things dont work out" :scared :scared My thinking is nothing (of course didnt say that) She is bringing nothing and i mean nothing financially to the marriage. But after discussing with attorney maybe a good idea for her to have doc reviewed by her own attorney so she cannot later (hopefully once again not needed) say she didnt understand what was signing.

 

[saint]

Yeah I definitely agree in this case that it is necessary.

In my case I have no assests, I'm broke from all these school loans :142crying I am, however, entering a pretty profitable profession. If we were to get divorced down the line, my fiance has helped me through 4 hard years of school, will do the same during 2 of residency and will raise my children one day. Even though I might be the person earning the $ she will have definitely sacrificed enough to deserve part of the pie should we split IMO.

 

[taoist]

But after discussing with attorney maybe a good idea for her to have doc reviewed by her own attorney so she cannot later (hopefully once again not needed) say she didnt understand what was signing.

...always a good idea that she get independent legal advice. That way she can't come back later and scream "foul." Make her attorney put his john henry on the document also along with your attorney, that way there can be no doubt that both parties were "advised of their legal rights."

 

[pug]

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[marine]

if she aint all that bright... tell her it is in her best interest to sign it, because that way if something should happen to you, i.e, severe injury, disability, death... she would be able to divorce you and not have to be saddled with any debts and taxes on properties you own or things like that.

 

[dawgball]

Personally, I do not agree with a prenup for me. But I also feel that everyone's situation is different. In this case, I think a prenup is in order. I think the ONLY approach on this is to be completely up-front and confident (not cocky) about it. I think if she sees that you are nervous about presenting it to her, then she will sense that she has something to be nervous about as well.

Being a business owner, a divorce would be shaky if my wife wanted to take me to the cleaners. I HIGHLY doubt that it will ever happen, but shit happens, right? BUT, I can sit here and say now that my portion of the business is worth less than $200K or so that my wife is just as much of a part of me being able to build my business as I am. Will I be in the same mind-set if our marriage ever went sour? Probably not. (Once again) BUT I do view her part in my business (she's never done any specific tasks for the company) as a vital role of our survival through the first 5 years of it.

I owned the business before we were married, but I think since it was basically worth zero (actually less than that) when we tied the knot there would be "discussions" over that as well.