How often to you get into arguements at your kids games with OBNOXIOUS people

[HansKullberg]

I have to admit that people using a passive-aggressive behavior drive me nuts. It becomes a crash course in what I call ?compassion management.? I have to be mindful not to react, although being human, sometimes I do. I also have to be mindful to remember that those who exhibit passive-aggressive behavior could have suffered harsh criticism in the past. Knowing the reason behind behaviors often helps one find the willingness to mitigate damage to either party.

 

[no pepper]

But when I see a CLOWN parent yelling AIRBALL every time a kid shoots and other negative things during Middle school basketball(up to 8 th grade...I have a PROBLEM)

That's about as low as it gets in my opinion. I would definitely have words with any parent acting that bush at an 8th grade game.

I've seen a lot of crazy shit at kids sporting events over the years. Once saw a soccer dad getting on a ref who was a teenage boy. The entire game he is yelling at this kid about his bad calls. Finally the kid came over and told the "fan" to leave the sideline. As he left, the dad hollered that he was going to wait in the parking lot to settle it after the game. Can you imagine a 40 year old man threatening a 15 year old kid with a fistfight after a fourth grade girls soccer match.

Well the kid called his Dad, who of course drives immediately up to the soccer field for the confrontation. I was literally pushing this maniac to his car after the game trying to be the peacekeeper. Christ!

 

[Wineguy]

Interesting how you can have a problem with me taking money for my time, knowledge, organizing events, practices, skills & drill & scrimmages. I've never coerced a parent for their child to play basketball, they approach me to see if their middle school player fits what we are offering. There is a market and we provide a safe environment in our area , simple as that....If you want to be a part of it, great, if you can do all of the above and want to do it for "free" by all means have at it!!!

For some parents it's all about the game and their child getting better to prepare for the next level, for others it's having their child to step outside of their comfort zone and grow as a person. Either way we provide a service and a venue for each type of player to grow.


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I didn't mean that you are a problem, its just not the right thing to do in my humble opinion. I did this same thing for 3 years for kids while in college and another 8 afterward, just passing along things from what I was taught and read as well, playing many years of ball and having a Dad that was a high school and college coach. Had no kids of my own on the team, and every coach I knew did it for free. Spent my own money a few times for pizza or ice cream afterwards if no parent offered it up, but they usually did. Paying it forward. And, had similar kids just out of college that coached my kids through middle school, and did it for free. Yeah, it takes time, but it is worth it. If they had an issue getting to games and things came up, then I or others would help out. I get it, 2 hours of practice two times a week and 2 games a week that would be 2-2.5 hours. But for only a short time of each year. So I respectfully disagree you take money to do this. There is bias somewhere, maybe you just don't see it sometimes. Again if people want to pay you to essentially babysit and provide a safe place to drop their kids off, then that is called a job essentially. But at least your time is money in your pocket. Great job helping kids though. :0008

 

[Sportsaholic]

I didn't mean that you are a problem, its just not the right thing to do in my humble opinion. I did this same thing for 3 years for kids while in college and another 8 afterward, just passing along things from what I was taught and read as well, playing many years of ball and having a Dad that was a high school and college coach. Had no kids of my own on the team, and every coach I knew did it for free. Spent my own money a few times for pizza or ice cream afterwards if no parent offered it up, but they usually did. Paying it forward. And, had similar kids just out of college that coached my kids through middle school, and did it for free. Yeah, it takes time, but it is worth it. If they had an issue getting to games and things came up, then I or others would help out. I get it, 2 hours of practice two times a week and 2 games a week that would be 2-2.5 hours. But for only a short time of each year. So I respectfully disagree you take money to do this. There is bias somewhere, maybe you just don't see it sometimes. Again if people want to pay you to essentially babysit and provide a safe place to drop their kids off, then that is called a job essentially. But at least your time is money in your pocket. Great job helping kids though. :0008

We have a YMCA & Rec Center and outside courts open to any and all to get shots up/pick up games for free (from our tax dollars), those courts get little to no use..... To play in a club with all the extras costs money..... The club I'm coaching for this spring has players from all over the state, 14 teams with more players that will be moved to another club......This is more the rule than the exception......:0008