I'm all screwed up right now!

[hawkeye]

BP--Remember you have to take care of yourself 1st-get good sleep, eat well and do some exercising.

 

[bleedingpurple]

BP, we have a law in Kentucky called Casey's Law. I was checking to see if your state had similar, but I could only find a reference to similar laws in 27 states. Maybe you could explore that for her? I think about your situation often. I really hope she starts to do better, but I don't have a lot of hope. Best wishes to you.

Casey's law allows for a parent, sibling, child, spouse, or even concerned friend or significant other to present the case to the county attorney and then to the judge that their loved one needs treatment. It starts the treatment without some major law breaking offense or harm to children happening first. Just an idea for you to explore in your state.

I'll look and thanks

 

[bleedingpurple]

BP--Remember you have to take care of yourself 1st-get good sleep, eat well and do some exercising.

just to.be clear.. I've been fine personally for a good time now. I knew what to expect and wasn't delusional about the situation. yeah that's what ya have to do. you have to put yourself first

 

[bleedingpurple]

I agree with old school, you tried, and she wanted none of it. Still doing it her way. It also affected you and was causing you so much stress obviously, but I truly believe you were enabling her in a small way. Very happy you have distanced yourself and cut contact. As you said in the beginning, you are 43 and she is 25. You will find someone, just stay away from the age range you just tried. Get someone established career wise that you are not a father figure to, and can respect. It will make you better in the long run. It was a noble gesture for trying, but you have to move on as you are. Good luck.

yes that was the struggle she would say if I wasn't in her life it would get worse.. she made it me that was her goal to get out but obviously it's much deeper

 

[the addict]

BP

As you've told me before...you have my contact info and if you need anything let me know...

I'm a former addict, as the name suggests, and have battled it for 9 yrs

When I quit football in college I struggled to find what my purpose was....I used a lot (never meth) but addiction doesn't care who you are or how old you are.

Physically it is a nightmare
Mentally it is a nightmare
Emotionally it is a nightmare
Socially it is a nightmare

My daughter saved my life...I truly believe that.


Perhaps at age 25 she doesn't believe "it could happen to me" regarding death or serious health issues -

It's tough to realize but old school and others know- Noone will change until they are ready- sometimes it happens too late...but you cannot allow yourself to feel responsible either way....the fact that you are concerned like you are, only solidifies my view on you, as being a solid person all around


When a person you care about is an addict it is hard....but just remember cutting them out or keeping them away to ensure your safety and well being does not mean you do not care. You have already done all you can. Perhaps rock bottom hasn't hit yet like some have referenced, and maybe the important people in her live still attending to her is preventing her from getting there

I'm not saying give up on her...by no means...but you can still distance yourself and shouldn't have to feel an inch of doubt or regret for doing so. It's not fair for your sleep/health to suffer....do you think she cares? She hasn't found a way to care for herself, and I promise you, others well being isn't on the mind of an addict

I'll absolutely keep you and her in my prayers...but sometimes prayer/religion or other hopes has nothing to do with it....it's only the person themselves who can decide to change. She will always struggle with addiction...it's an awful thing...but I realized eventually that it had nothing to do with anyone but myself


Hope she decides to choose living over meth...but either way you've done all you can...regardless if you choose to walk away or to stay and try helping, make sure you take care of yourself...you need to worry about you....because she isnt...


Man does addiction suck

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[bleedingpurple]

BP

As you've told me before...you have my contact info and if you need anything let me know...

I'm a former addict, as the name suggests, and have battled it for 9 yrs

When I quit football in college I struggled to find what my purpose was....I used a lot (never meth) but addiction doesn't care who you are or how old you are.

Physically it is a nightmare
Mentally it is a nightmare
Emotionally it is a nightmare
Socially it is a nightmare

My daughter saved my life...I truly believe that.

Perhaps at age 25 she doesn't believe "it could happen to me" regarding death or serious health issues -

It's tough to realize but old school and others know- Noone will change until they are ready- sometimes it happens too late...but you cannot allow yourself to feel responsible either way....the fact that you are concerned like you are, only solidifies my view on you, as being a solid person all around

When a person you care about is an addict it is hard....but just remember cutting them out or keeping them away to ensure your safety and well being does not mean you do not care. You have already done all you can. Perhaps rock bottom hasn't hit yet like some have referenced, and maybe the important people in her live still attending to her is preventing her from getting there

I'm not saying give up on her...by no means...but you can still distance yourself and shouldn't have to feel an inch of doubt or regret for doing so. It's not fair for your sleep/health to suffer....do you think she cares? She hasn't found a way to care for herself, and I promise you, others well being isn't on the mind of an addict

I'll absolutely keep you and her in my prayers...but sometimes prayer/religion or other hopes has nothing to do with it....it's only the person themselves who can decide to change. She will always struggle with addiction...it's an awful thing...but I realized eventually that it had nothing to do with anyone but myself

Hope she decides to choose living over meth...but either way you've done all you can...regardless if you choose to walk away or to stay and try helping, make sure you take care of yourself...you need to worry about you....because she isnt...

Man does addiction suck

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thanks a ton.. you know what. if I ever talk to her again or anything like that I'm going to show her his post

 

[ImFeklhr]

uses and stays awake during the day and crashes for about 2 days.

Remember this aspect "fondly", when I was dealing with someone I cared about using meth. Up 2 days, crash 2 days.

The 2 day crashes were actually the time I could recover and be in peace until it all started up again. Been there done that; don't miss it.

Went on for a couple years. Luckily the person eventually did quit. Hope it sticks.
Hope your friend finds her path.

 

[bleedingpurple]

Remember this aspect "fondly", when I was dealing with someone I cared about using meth. Up 2 days, crash 2 days.

The 2 day crashes were actually the time I could recover and be in peace until it all started up again. Been there done that; don't miss it.

Went on for a couple years. Luckily the person eventually did quit. Hope it sticks.
Hope your friend finds her path.

Thanks for the message in reputation... she is still battling, at least she is battling, brother told me she crashed for 4 days last week, she called me and said she has to quit. I told her I would be there for support and I would be willing to help out with child care if she were to go to treatment.. Dumb shit still wants to try to beat this on her own, I think she is getting fed up with failing and is getting closer to treatment but we shall see, Haven't lost faith in her quitting on own... Well that is a lie yes I have lost faith. See how this unfolds but if she crashed for days last week then I bet she looks like shit this week.

 

[RAYMOND]

the only way she gets clean if she want to !! some people have to hit rock bottom before they surrender to the disease of addiction !! its powerful and cunning ! its does not discriminate! the first steps to omit your powerless over your addiction! there alot of support group out there aa or na hope this all ends well
the power of prayer is powerful

your friend will be in my prayers