I hate life.

[3 Seconds]

Yeah, exactly. Now after your strong implications in the initial post about suicide, you're talking about 'not surviving' and this will 'break you.'

Get the fuck out of there.

I dunno, man. You've gotten some great, accurate advice in this thread, mostly(totally) ignored, and of course it's a good outlet for you to vent, but you need to LEAVE and make an appt with a counselor. That doesn't show a weakness, man, we're all human, but fuck.

I already see a therapist & I saw him today.

I know the advice given here has been great & I am very thankful for it.

It is much harder to do than say. This has really fucked my entire world up. My wife & I were at one point everything to each other. We were all that mattered in the world. & now its NOTHINGNESS, it all shattered, nothing is clear.

This has hit me from out of left field like a ton of bricks. I really dont care what anyone says but I have been in tears more than I care to admit. I feel as if I just lost my soul. If that makes me weak or a pussy so be it.

I just lost the women I loved more than anything in the entire world w/o any warning. I thought we were happy. I thought we were forever. The pain is just so much.

 

[3 Seconds]

Oh yeah today is my birthday....worst one ever.

Not a cake, she didnt even give me a card, or say happy birthday till I pointed it out to her.

Yet 3 days ago she said she was still in love with me & we were having sex every night & acting like we used to be when were truly happy.

 

[spartan]

I already see a therapist & I saw him today.

I know the advice given here has been great & I am very thankful for it.

It is much harder to do than say. This has really fucked my entire world up. My wife & I were at one point everything to each other. We were all that mattered in the world. & now its NOTHINGNESS, it all shattered, nothing is clear.

This has hit me from out of left field like a ton of bricks. I really dont care what anyone says but I have been in tears more than I care to admit. I feel as if I just lost my soul. If that makes me weak or a pussy so be it.

I just lost the women I loved more than anything in the entire world w/o any warning. I thought we were happy. I thought we were forever. The pain is just so much.

Whatever you do do not think it's the end you hear.
I know you think she means the world to you but she is not the only female in the world.
There is other fish (women) who will be there for "you" trust me on this, don't give up on life!

 

[Woodson]

I haven't directed a post at you for some time now and it was because I had stated what I personally have experienced and was hoping you would act upon.

It pains me to tell you this, but as you described in the beginning, about how this is your fault, for you berating her, for not praising your wife, for not being there emotionally... well, those actions have SHATTERED her view of you as A MAN.

If you continue to act out for her reaction, you will not win. If you continue to bargain, you will not win. Her perception of you has altered, and with women, this is a very serious.

If you do want her back, you need to leave. If you feel like you are lost without her, you need to leave.

SEPERATION not only cools off irrational outburst and moments of anguish, it also allows both parties time to sort outone's innerself, priorities, and re-align the balance of what has ultimately been a complete realization that what you both thought was YOUR PLAN currently has FAILED.

BE A MAN, give her space for better or for worse, and as I stated a long time ago, THIS IS GOING TO TAKE A YEAR IF NOT LONGER TO GET OVER. THERE IS NO SHORT TIME SPAN.

She still loves you but I bet you aren't telling us everything at this point. Have you yelled at her in the last week? Have you CONTINUED to do what ou know has caused this break between you?

You really need to leave. This is bigger than your birthday. Don't go for childish attention.

You can fix this, but as you identified, you need to fix yourself first.

I say this humbled as someone who has experienced it first hand.

Breathe, move out. Give her space and a reason to see you can be the man that she once saw you to be.

I wish you happiness down whatever path your actions take you.

B

 

[3 Seconds]

I haven't directed a post at you for some time now and it was because I had stated what I personally have experienced and was hoping you would act upon.

It pains me to tell you this, but as you described in the beginning, about how this is your fault, for you berating her, for not praising your wife, for not being there emotionally... well, those actions have SHATTERED her view of you as A MAN.

If you continue to act out for her reaction, you will not win. If you continue to bargain, you will not win. Her perception of you has altered, and with women, this is a very serious.

If you do want her back, you need to leave. If you feel like you are lost without her, you need to leave.

SEPERATION not only cools off irrational outburst and moments of anguish, it also allows both parties time to sort outone's innerself, priorities, and re-align the balance of what has ultimately been a complete realization that what you both thought was YOUR PLAN currently has FAILED.

BE A MAN, give her space for better or for worse, and as I stated a long time ago, THIS IS GOING TO TAKE A YEAR IF NOT LONGER TO GET OVER. THERE IS NO SHORT TIME SPAN.

She still loves you but I bet you aren't telling us everything at this point. Have you yelled at her in the last week? Have you CONTINUED to do what ou know has caused this break between you?

You really need to leave. This is bigger than your birthday. Don't go for childish attention.

You can fix this, but as you identified, you need to fix yourself first.

I say this humbled as someone who has experienced it first hand.

Breathe, move out. Give her space and a reason to see you can be the man that she once saw you to be.

I wish you happiness down whatever path your actions take you.

B

Thank you very much for your post, I appreciate your candor.

You are right this is about me. It is about my faults putting her in the position she was to even entertain the thought of leaving our marriage in whatever fashion she chose, no matter how wrong it ended up being.

It would be a lot easier to separate & leave just like that if she wasn't moving 2 miles from the man she is/was having an affair with...that is almost an impossible obstacle to overcome. If there was any chance at working it out he would have to be gone out of the picture & how does that happen when they live 2 miles apart while I will be over an hour away??

I am telling you everything. There has been no yelling, no lashing out, heated conversations yes, some hostility on both our behaves yes.

When she found out on Sunday that some girl was calling me & texting me, as a friends, but she went crazy. She was like you are fucking her aren't you, she threw shit like my clothes & then went and slammed a beer bottle on our drive way.

Now 2 days later again she pretends she's ok with it & it doesnt bother her. I dont get it. :shrug:

I agree though with most of what you are saying & I know it is what I should have done right away.

 

[Woodson]

In response to what you have stated, the only thing I can add that is sound advice is the following.

You will go bat shit crazy trying to control HER outcome and by this I mean not realizing your boundaries and abilities to CHANGE her feelings and actions.

It is a very slippery slope and could lead to a nightmarish scenario.

I can agree that times like these which I have experienced, I wish I could turn off my imagination.

Don't let those thoughts control your actions and you may work this out after all.

Happy Birthday and again I do hope this works out for you in a positive light.


I feel for you although not pity. It's these difficult times that define us. I wouldn't be who I am today without them. And for that I am thankful although it took many years to see the light...

 

[IE]

just remember that what ever happens....


tomorrow is a


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u6FwEJwwYcQ&feature=channel

and enjoy it !!

and maybe also...


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cP0K6H2QK7A&feature=related

 

[hedgehog]

pack your shit and get the hell out of there:shrug:

Happy Birthday

 

[The Joker]

Thank you very much for your post, I appreciate your candor.

You are right this is about me. It is about my faults putting her in the position she was to even entertain the thought of leaving our marriage in whatever fashion she chose, no matter how wrong it ended up being.

It would be a lot easier to separate & leave just like that if she wasn't moving 2 miles from the man she is/was having an affair with...that is almost an impossible obstacle to overcome. If there was any chance at working it out he would have to be gone out of the picture & how does that happen when they live 2 miles apart while I will be over an hour away??

I am telling you everything. There has been no yelling, no lashing out, heated conversations yes, some hostility on both our behaves yes.

When she found out on Sunday that some girl was calling me & texting me, as a friends, but she went crazy. She was like you are fucking her aren't you, she threw shit like my clothes & then went and slammed a beer bottle on our drive way.

Now 2 days later again she pretends she's ok with it & it doesnt bother her. I dont get it. :shrug:

I agree though with most of what you are saying & I know it is what I should have done right away.

I see you're not on the list for the Belterra golf outing - I can't imagine why you're not on the list - what in the hell do you have to do that's better than that?

 

[3 Seconds]

Does anyone here live in Chester County, PA?

I am trying to get some info on a local business up in that area & I cant seem to find any online.

 

[3 Seconds]

Well just when you thought it couldnt get any more bizarre....it does.

She is pregnant with his child. 100% no doubt about it.

How FUCKED up is that? Her 1st baby to a guy she has physically spent 4 days with & she tells me she rather it be his than mine after 7 years of being together

I dont see how I survive this one. We planned on getting pregnant now, before this all went down.

 

[MadJack]

Well just when you thought it couldnt get any more bizarre....it does.

She is pregnant with his child. 100% no doubt about it.

How FUCKED up is that? Her 1st baby to a guy she has physically spent 4 days with & she tells me she rather it be his than mine after 7 years of being together

I dont see how I survive this one. We planned on getting pregnant now, before this all went down.

you should spend a lot of time on that website i posted for you.

you can get through this. get her the fuck out of there.

 

[Eddie Haskell]

Take care of #1. Avoid her at all costs.

Eddie

 

[jr11]

Seriously don't think someone could write a script for this story. WTF? Out, get the f*ck out of there and now and don't look back.

 

[Woodson]

:bsflag

 

[RAYMOND]

Does anyone here live in Chester County, PA?

I am trying to get some info on a local business up in that area & I cant seem to find any online.

i am 40 minutes away

 

[RAYMOND]

pack your shit and get the hell out of there:shrug:

Happy Birthday

:mj07:

 

[RAYMOND]

Well just when you thought it couldnt get any more bizarre....it does.

She is pregnant with his child. 100% no doubt about it.

How FUCKED up is that? Her 1st baby to a guy she has physically spent 4 days with & she tells me she rather it be his than mine after 7 years of being together

I dont see how I survive this one. We planned on getting pregnant now, before this all went down.

start drinking:SIB

 

[MadJack]

:mj07:

:mj07:

 

[hedgehog]

Well just when you thought it couldnt get any more bizarre....it does.

She is pregnant with his child. 100% no doubt about it.

How FUCKED up is that? Her 1st baby to a guy she has physically spent 4 days with & she tells me she rather it be his than mine after 7 years of being together

I dont see how I survive this one. We planned on getting pregnant now, before this all went down.

WOW...You are the presumed father, since you are legally married to her so you will owe child support unless you get a paternity test now and please do not go back to her, you need to get out now and never talk to her again. :sadwave: