I hate life.

[White Shadow]

She is full of resentment & some serious anger.

She's fu--ing around and she's the one full of resentment and anger?? :shrug:

I know it hurts 3 but you gotta speed up the process of getting this woman out of your life. Until you are away from her for a fairly long stretch of time, you are not going to be able to begin the healing process. It truly does take time and it isn't easy but with what she is doing, it should be easier for you to move on.

Hang in there and keep plugging along.......it will get better.

One last closing comment......there are ALOT of crazy women out there. When you decide you are ready to start dating, avoid them.......especially young ones named Sahel. :SIB

 

[MadJack]

she's using anger to disguise her guilty feelings. get the divorce papers drawn up ASAP and have them signed ASAP while she still has these guilty feelings (YES, she has them). she is more likely to ask for less than her fair share while she's still in this puppy love state that's she's in.

when mine cheated, i found out on friday, the papers where signed on monday and monday night her ass was out the door. 64 days later the divorce was final.

you have to cover your ass now and that's your main priority. do not let her take advantage of you. she fucked you and the partnership over by cheating and it's NOT YOU FAULT!

 

[MadJack]

she's using anger to disguise her guilty feelings and to justify, in her mind, that she did nothing wrong.

 

[AR182]

she's using anger to disguise her guilty feelings. get the divorce papers drawn up ASAP and have them signed ASAP while she still has these guilty feelings (YES, she has them). she is more likely to ask for less than her fair share while she's still in this puppy love state that's she's in.

when mine cheated, i found out on friday, the papers where signed on monday and monday night her ass was out the door. 64 days later the divorce was final.

you have to cover your ass now and that's your main priority. do not let her take advantage of you. she fucked you and the partnership over by cheating and it's NOT YOU FAULT!

hey 3 sec...sorry to see this.....imo woodson & jack are giving you sound advice....

i walked out on my first wife at 3am, spent 6 months sleeping on the floor in my mother's apt. & never looked back....& my advice is that to not let it linger & know that divorce is war (don't let anybody tell you differently).....& be thankful that kids are not involved.

best of luck....

 

[kellyindallas]

I think you've already learned a very valuable lesson.There are certain things and low blows that once given, cannot be taken back. They chip away at the foundation, and eventually the foundation crumbles. LEARN FROM THIS.

She definitely should not have cheated. The fact that she did this means she doesn't love you. Period.

It will take time; it always does. Just remember, you are at the worst part right now. It WILL get easier. Take this time to grow as an individual. Take up hobbies you always wanted to, or nourish those you already have.

No matter how enraged you are, try not to be a petty asshole. It's not worth it and secondly, just be a bigger person. You'll feel better about it in the end.

Look back over the relationship and really think about what YOU did wrong, and learn from it. Don't repeat it in the future.

You will eventually find someone else and you will have another chance at true happiness. Though we don't always know why things happen that seem so terrible, there is often a very silver lining behind those clouds.

Good luck.

 

[kosar]

I think you've already learned a very valuable lesson.There are certain things and low blows that once given, cannot be taken back. They chip away at the foundation, and eventually the foundation crumbles. LEARN FROM THIS.

Look back over the relationship and really think about what YOU did wrong, and learn from it. Don't repeat it in the future.

He said it was his fault. No reason to scold him. Jesus.

 

[kellyindallas]

Dork. I wasn't scolding with him, I'm agreeing with him. Props to him for "man"ing up and realizing that he was somewhat to blame. All one can do is control one's own actions and learn from them.

 

[gardenweasel]

i think he "man`s up" by not playing the victim and letting her know that if she doesn`t want to be with him,then please move on(not emotionally...not with hurt or anger)....

with a cold resolve...


i don`t think she cheated because you said harsh things to her...she cheated because she doesn`t respect you...she knows she can manipulate you...and that`s what she`s doing with all the b.s. about harsh language...it worked...and it`s probabl;y not the first time...


"she doesn`t respect you....she knows she can manipulate you"...

buck up,take a stand and get that respect back...what`s the worst that can happen?...guess what?..it`s already happened...

it`s amazing what can happen when someone who`s been using you for a pinata realizes that you can live without them...

buck up,dude..and g.l.

 

[3 Seconds]

i think he "man`s up" by not playing the victim and letting her know that if she doesn`t want to be with him,then please move on(not emotionally...not with hurt or anger)....

with a cold resolve...


i don`t think she cheated because you said harsh things to her...she cheated because she doesn`t respect you...she knows she can manipulate you...and that`s what she`s doing with all the b.s. about harsh language...it worked...and it`s probabl;y not the first time...


"she doesn`t respect you....she knows she can manipulate you"...

buck up,take a stand and get that respect back...what`s the worst that can happen?...guess what?..it`s already happened...

it`s amazing what can happen when someone who`s been using you for a pinata realizes that you can live without them...

buck up,dude..and g.l.

Honestly while I agree with what you are saying it was I, not her, that used or a better way of saying it would be took advantage of her. This woman gave me everything I could have asked for. She did any & everything to make me happy during our 7 years. I took it all for granted & did not reciprocate. I was selfish. She was amazing giving & generous. Everything she did was to make me happy to keep me content. She tried & tried to get through to me & I just ignored her requests or shut them & her out.

Until the last month she was amazing. She snapped after our last fight when I broke her heart with cruel words. Is this an excuse for cheating? No, but she is a very non-confrontal person, while I am the opposite.

Personally I think she slept with him initially as a way to end the relationship w/o a major confrontation. It was a way to ensure she didnt back down from a decision she had made. She had felt weak. After that from what I have read its like the other guy became an addiction, a void was being filled emotionally by him that I was not doing for the longest time.

Still, not an excuse, but a rationalization on my part.

 

[spartan]

May I ask why you shut her out maybe you were bored with her or the same old routine?

 

[3 Seconds]

May I ask why you shut her out maybe you were bored with her or the same old routine?

Because I was blindly unaware of what I was doing. My communication skills were deficient. I have always had an issue with letting people get to close to me & sometimes when I did I lashed out at them when I felt hurt. It was a reactionary thing that I didnt have a strong enough control over.

I have been suffering from chronic depression for about the last 10 years my therapist tells me. I only recent start seeking therapy for my issues. He tells me no doubt this played a role in many of my marital issues.

 

[spartan]

Because I was blindly unaware of what I was doing. My communication skills were deficient. I have always had an issue with letting people get to close to me & sometimes when I did I lashed out at them when I felt hurt. It was a reactionary thing that I didnt have a strong enough control over.

I have been suffering from chronic depression for about the last 10 years my therapist tells me. I only recent start seeking therapy for my issues. He tells me no doubt this played a role in my of my marital issues.

This lasted for 7 years and the collapse showed it's ugly head.
Sorry for your condition I hope you can overcome this quickly.
With women communication is everything so I hope you can make strides fast.
Stay positive and have more faith in yourself, maybe change your routine or your lifestyle.

 

[gardenweasel]

Honestly while I agree with what you are saying it was I, not her, that used or a better way of saying it would be took advantage of her. This woman gave me everything I could have asked for. She did any & everything to make me happy during our 7 years. I took it all for granted & did not reciprocate. I was selfish. She was amazing giving & generous. Everything she did was to make me happy to keep me content. She tried & tried to get through to me & I just ignored her requests or shut them & her out.

Until the last month she was amazing. She snapped after our last fight when I broke her heart with cruel words. Is this an excuse for cheating? No, but she is a very non-confrontal person, while I am the opposite.

Personally I think she slept with him initially as a way to end the relationship w/o a major confrontation. It was a way to ensure she didnt back down from a decision she had made. She had felt weak. After that from what I have read its like the other guy became an addiction, a void was being filled emotionally by him that I was not doing for the longest time.

Still, not an excuse, but a rationalization on my part.

well,you know better than i do....

thankfully,i didn`t charge for the advice(joke..:lol: )..

seriously,get some support from your immediate family...they`ll ALWAYS be there...wives,unfortunately,can come and go(sad but true)...

g.l. ...you`ll get through it..

 

[The Joker]

she's using anger to disguise her guilty feelings. get the divorce papers drawn up ASAP and have them signed ASAP while she still has these guilty feelings (YES, she has them). she is more likely to ask for less than her fair share while she's still in this puppy love state that's she's in.

when mine cheated, i found out on friday, the papers where signed on monday and monday night her ass was out the door. 64 days later the divorce was final.

you have to cover your ass now and that's your main priority. do not let her take advantage of you. she fucked you and the partnership over by cheating and it's NOT YOU FAULT!

Best advice in this entire post and you didn't even have to pay for it......

 

[Cie]

She is full of resentment & some serious anger.

Sounds from the outside that she is projecting her self-loathing. Regardless of the cause, leave now, and start living. The sooner, the better. Jmho.

 

[Cie]

He said it was his fault. No reason to scold him. Jesus.

Bitches, what can ya do

 

[bleedingpurple]

He said it was his fault. No reason to scold him. Jesus.

I wouldn't have needed to read her monicker and would have known that a woman wrote that post.. WOW

 

[kellyindallas]

I wouldn't have needed to read her monicker and would have known that a woman wrote that post.. WOW

What's the problem?

It doesn't matter whether it's a male or female. People say things they cannot take back, and it can alter relationships forever.

Do you disagree?

 

[MadJack]

What's the problem?

It doesn't matter whether it's a male or female. People say things they cannot take back, and it can alter relationships forever.

Do you disagree?

so that gives one a free ticket to infidelity :shrug:

 

[kellyindallas]

so that gives one a free ticket to infidelity :shrug:

Where did I say that? In fact, if YOU READ the posts, I said that was wrong.

What's really funny is you guys' preconceptions based on gender. My comments are based on MY OWN experience in saying those things to someone I was involved with. I learned from that experience, I was wrong, and I learned what saying things that you can't take back can do to someone and the relationship...

So much for typical male assumptions...