I hate life.

[RAYMOND]

this crap would never happen in iran...



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[kosar]

Ha ha! That's what I figured. No worries.

Being a smart 'lawyer' and all, you surely know that people who are buzzed don't say things that they don't believe, but they say things that they might otherwise have not 'vebalized.'

 

[kosar]

Well we are still in the same house & this is making for quite an interesting dynamic.

Last night I went out to the bar & with in 20 mins she calls me & tells me to come home. She doesnt want me out gettin drunk & doing something crazy, so I pick up a 12 pack at the grocery store & head on home. I figured that would actually be the best move.

So I get home & completely & totally act like I dont give a fuck about anything. I have come to terms & am now happily looking forward.

We end up on our back deck & I am drinkin & smoking just watching the sunset over the water & she comes out has a few beers. She almost immediately starting softly crying about how sad this all has gotten. And that its not my problem anymore to be concerned when she is sad, cause I did try & get her to just stop crying. We start just talking about what we are going to do in the future. We are just talking & rehashing what & why things went wrong & out of the blue she asks me if I she can hug me. I say NO.

The evening continues just sitting out on the deck drinkin & listen to music. A few brief moments the convo gets heated & she actually started throwin things out of my packed boxes some clothes some books & I am just laughing at her. Actually enjoyin this a bit at this point, but it settles back down & we are back on the deck & again completely unexpectedly she jumps out of her chair & just grabs & hugs me as she starts balling her eyes out. I just let her get it out. I did not embrace her at all. She did this for about 6-7 mins. She starting mumbling some shit about "you wanted to make it better, you really wanted to & I just fucked up our entire relationship." She did not try & reconcile though at any point.

So after it was over I tell her I am happy for you, happy you got that out. That was the first true remorse she has showed.

Its just funny that whenever I act like I am totally fine with the situation, dont care anymore all of a sudden she cares & gets sad. When I am acting like I care she wants nothing to do with me & tell me all the BS how she is so done etc......

I dont get it.

Come on, man. You get it. This is classic ' female mindfucking 101.'

 

[gardenweasel]

Its just funny that whenever I act like I am totally fine with the situation, dont care anymore all of a sudden she cares & gets sad. When I am acting like I care she wants nothing to do with me & tell me all the BS how she is so done etc......

I dont get it.

weasel/"it`s amazing what can happen when someone who`s been using you for a pinata realizes that you can live without them"........


thank me very much...:walk:

btw...cie grant...if you read this,apologies for the ufc last night....i have been extremely hot in mma of late,but last night was an utter calamity....

dollaway getting subbed in.55 seconds and bonnar losing to "father time"?...:mj13: ...absolutely bizarre....

hope you didn`t get hurt...we`ll make it right...:thumb:

 

[DOGS THAT BARK]

3, I'm sorry you're having to go through this. I've been there myself. Interestingly, it was right around the seven year mark for me as well.

My advice is to cut the ties as quickly and cleanly as you can. Try to identify an interest you have and pour yourself into it. Taking a class worked for me and ended up in a career that can carry me through anything and anywhere I go. Stop beating yourself up; it's not healthy. Take some solace in the Serenity Prayer and ask yourself, "What can I do to change this?" If there's nothing you can do, be smart enough to let it go, learn from it and move on.

As far as her turning it around on you, you may have been distant and uncommunicative but SHE made the choice to seek her pleasure outside the marriage. Now she must live with the consequences. It's just possible that she's discovered the love of her life and, in another few years, he'll do the same thing to her!

What goes around comes around but it's not up to you to make it come around.

Note to MJ'ers: I'd be curious to know how many of the self-righteous folks here who have virtually stoned this woman are completely without sin themselves.

You might have added that would be interesting to hear other side of story--I wonder if his wife (if active on forums) has pics of naked dudes as avatar and signature :SIB

 

[Cie]

weasel/"it`s amazing what can happen when someone who`s been using you for a pinata realizes that you can live without them"........


thank me very much...:walk:

btw...cie grant...if you read this,apologies for the ufc last night....i have been extremely hot in mma of late,but last night was an utter calamity....

dollaway getting subbed in.55 seconds and bonnar losing to "father time"?...:mj13: ...absolutely bizarre....

hope you didn`t get hurt...we`ll make it right...:thumb:

It's all good, GW. I lost a bit in parlays, but caught some back fading the public dog in the 'main event'. Cheers:toast:

 

[ferdville]

Avoid any temptation to take her back, get back with her, whatever. The thought will cross your mind and you might think it will be better second time around. It won't. What is going to change and I don't think many guys could spend their life with a wife that cheated.

 

[Julene]

Sorry to hear you are going through this. Divorce sucks.

I don't understand one thing. If you don't want to be divorced, why are you filing? Why shouldn't she have to do that?

 

[Sportsaholic]

Come on, man. You get it. This is classic ' female mindfucking 101.'

Agreed! Find a new squeeze and update us with storyline & pics! Maybe her girlfriend, sister or Mom :shrug:

 

[BADTODABONE]

....Mom :shrug:

Let's leave Mom out of this thread :nono:

 

[MrChristo]

I wonder if his wife (if active on forums) has pics of naked dudes as avatar and signature :SIB

Maybe that pic is of her, Dogs? :shrug:

If so, I say learn to live with her cheating ways and restart the jiggling asap!

kurby

 

[Sportsaholic]

Let's leave Mom out of this thread :nono:

Fine with me.......Please replace "MOM" with Aunt or Cousin, as long as there are pics :mj06:

 

[stephenpaul6557]

Sorry

Sorry

I'm sorry to hear that. I know it is hard but you can get through this. It's going to hurt but give it time and you'll feel better.

 

[UGA12]

Call it foolish pride if you will, but if my wife had another mans dick in her at any point her ass would be gone. The fact you have no kids make this a no brainer. I can also assure you that if you are having marital problems without kids, it will be a complete train wreck with them. I see this as a blessing for you, take this opportunity to make the rest of both of your lives better and put the cheater on the road. Dosent seem you are ready to do that though. so I see this soap opra dragging out for quite a while. Just remember the longer you refuse to accept it, the longer it will be before you get over it. GL

 

[doochuk]

Call it foolish pride if you will, but if my wife had another mans dick in her at any point her ass would be gone. The fact you have no kids make this a no brainer. I can also assure you that if you are having marital problems without kids, it will be a complete train wreck with them. I see this as a blessing for you, take this opportunity to make the rest of both of your lives better and put the cheater on the road. Dosent seem you are ready to do that though. so I see this soap opra dragging out for quite a while. Just remember the longer you refuse to accept it, the longer it will be before you get over it. GL

agree and very well said

 

[Woodson]

I'm sorry to hear that. I know it is hard but you can get through this. It's going to hurt but give it time and you'll feel better.

STEEEEEEPHEN!!!!


:director: I SAID TO GO BRUSH YOUR TEETH, TO GET OFF THE INTERNET AND GO TO BED AN HOUR AGO!!!!!

 

[gardenweasel]

Sorry to hear you are going through this. Divorce sucks.

I don't understand one thing. If you don't want to be divorced, why are you filing? Why shouldn't she have to do that?

i missed you(you lil` minx)...:brows:...

but hey...i don`t blame you...the weather`s been nice...i can just see you decked out with a thong and string top, skanking with the local boys....

nice to see you back hanging out with the riff raff...don`t be such a stranger....:sadwave: :toast:

 

[hedgehog]

any update:0corn 3sec you move out yet?

 

[3 Seconds]

any update:0corn 3sec you move out yet?

No I have not. Friday is the day I file for divorce, even though I am not 100% behind it.

On a positive note, I have me a nice 22 year old that is ready to get down @ a moments notice & my wife is getting very jealous about it. At first she said she didnt give a fuck & she was 'happy for me' & 'I deserve it' She did ask a million questions about her, but prefaced or ended all of them with those statments.

Now its to the point she cant take & she admits it fully that is bothers her greatly.

She said 'I cant believe my husband is dating other people"

This after she has been banged some dude for an entire weekend.

Last week before I knew anything & we were talking she said "I dont feel like your wife any longer', but now I am her husband?

 

[hedgehog]

No I have not. Friday is the day I file for divorce, even though I am not 100% behind it.

On a positive note, I have me a nice 22 year old that is ready to get down @ a moments notice & my wife is getting very jealous about it. At first she said she didnt give a fuck & she was 'happy for me' & 'I deserve it' She did ask a million questions about her, but prefaced or ended all of them with those statments.

Now its to the point she cant take & she admits it fully that is bothers her greatly.

She said 'I cant believe my husband is dating other people"

This after she has been banged some dude for an entire weekend.

Last week before I knew anything & we were talking she said "I dont feel like your wife any longer', but now I am her husband?

I would not have sex with your new woman until the divorce is final, but thats just me.